The power of what some call "unresolved tension".
LOL... I guess it all comes from the very simple human nature called Curiosity. Curiosity over the future, over possibilities.
One day if there's a chance at trying this foreign cuisine you've heard about for years... and the chance slipped by, you'll find yourself craving for the first try even more. You want it, you want it and you WANT IT!!! Why? Erm...
God told Adam and Eve not to eat the fruit (yeah that fruit), and it took only a simple suggestion from the serpent to just have a try at it. Yeah that simple act of "disobedience" sort of caused humans to "fall". But who can blame them? That's not just a simple fist-sized fruit, but a ton of "what ifs". A galaxy of it, even.
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I recently watched this film "Dan In Real Life", and far from being the simple family film I expected, I was brought through a rather fierce battle with unresolved tension.
OK put it in a simple way... you meet a lady during some random bookstore visit. You sort of hit it off, and exchanged numbers. Lady's attached, but it's a fair game isn't it?
Not quite! She turned out to be attached - to your brother.
And during this big family gathering, you had all the chance in the world to see her face everyday. Pinch.
And see her getting intimate with your brother. More pinch.
All could have been forgotten if, say, you procrastinated in giving her a call after parting at the bookstore. But this girl is now under the same roof as you, and you clearly see that she cannot be yours, as if she herself held up a signboard with that statement or something.
That's only at your level. She herself showed visible signs of - is that the word - wanting you as well!
Dai Pinch!!!
And she's not happy when you tried hooking up with that other lady, clearly just for the sake of it.
And then you had to go and sing that love song for her!
I won't say much about the ending, just that I didn't emerge from the theatre bulldogging about sad sad singlehood. Nuff said.
"I love her. I love her I LOVE HER!" - Dan
Well that might have been love... given their personality it wasn't surprising that they attracted each other. I was rooting for them throughout the entire show, in fact. Ultimately, still, I had to admit that it was the tension - that carrot-before-donkey kind of setting - that amplified the desire so much more.
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Unresolved tension is indeed powerful, but it's never a promise, only a suggestion. Never an answer, only the question.
The girl you might have gotten to know more,
marry, and divorce.
The gadget you could have purchased before it went out of production,
and then give it a 0.5 star rating 'cause of its lack of functions...
After all, life never did turn out quite as expected, did it?
Such tensions are still, in the end, best to be addressed. I say that as I've seen the monsters which unaddressed emotions and issues can evolve into.
